15 Surprising Ways Exercise Can Help Your Marriage

Happy couple exercising (running) together

We all know we should exercise regularly. For those of you already in the habit of exercising, you know that you have more confidence, feel happier, and have more energy when you take time to be active. However, did you know that exercise provides benefits to your marriage as well?

Take a moment and consider how each of the following items could improve your marriage:

  1. Living a longer life
  2. Having less stress
  3. Sleeping more soundly
  4. Receiving instant mood boosts
  5. Having more confidence
  6. Being sick less often
  7. Having more energy
  8. Maintaining a healthy body weight
  9. Reducing the risk of life threatening diseases
  10. Being more productive
  11. Finding a healthy outlet for your anger
  12. Looking younger
  13. Feeling younger
  14. Having an improved self-image
  15. Increasing your likelihood of happiness

University Teaching

When I teach this particular lesson to my university students, I ask them to rank each item from 1-5 (with a 1 being “not helpful for marriage” and 5 being “extremely helpful for marriage”). As you can imagine, most students rank each of these items quite high.

In fact, last week one young lady raised her hand and said “I feel kind of selfish, but all of these things would benefit my marriage and I want them all.”

The good news is that these benefits are available to each of us – provided we take the time to consistently exercise.

Not convinced yet?

Recently a colleague of mine, and a PhD in psychology, noted that if the benefits of exercise could somehow be sold as a pill it would be the most prescribed drug on earth. What a fascinating perspective!

Still not convinced?

If you’re still not ready to lace up your cross-trainers, consider the research behind just 3 of the above listed benefits:

1. Those who exercise live longer

Ask yourself a few questions. First, would living longer be a blessing to your partner? Would living longer be a blessing for your children? I suspect for most of you the answer is a resounding “yes.” Not only do we cherish our relationship with our loved ones, but we want to enjoy those relationships for many more years.

However, the number one cause of death in the United States is cardiovascular disease – a condition that is often preventable. Fortunately, according to scientific research, those who consistently exercise reduce their risk of this disease by 50% and, subsequently, increase the likelihood of additional years with their loved ones.

2. Those who exercise manage their stress better

Does stress impact your relationship with your spouse? Are you more prone to be short-tempered, unkind, or a poor listener when you feel stressed?

Recent research suggests that those who consistently exercise for at least 3 times per week for 20 minutes (or more) are more apt to effectively manage their stress than those who do not exercise.  That is some beneficial multi-tasking – burn calories and stress at the same time.

3. Those who exercise sleep more soundly

Life can be exhausting at times. Regardless if our fatigue stems from having young children in the home, putting in long hours in the office, or having other time consuming pursuits, life can be tiring.

Though there is something to be said for prioritizing sufficient rest, research once again offers us some hope. Those who exercise fall asleep more quickly, sleep more soundly and awake more rejuvenated than those who do not exercise.

Exercise because you love your spouse

Regardless if you already love exercising or if you hate it with a passion, you do value your marriage. So, the next time you get tempted to cross off exercising from your busy to-do list, remember the many ways that this one activity can benefit your marriage.


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