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Three Tips for Choosing a Happy Marriage

Three Tips for Choosing a Happy Marriage

We’ve all had those friends who are stuck in miserable marriages. Maybe we’re even stuck in one ourselves! But are we really stuck? Except for cases of tremendous trauma (such as abuse, infidelity, and neglect), the way out is not as hard as it may seem. We actually...

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Is Your 5-year-old Teaching Others About Sex?

Is Your 5-year-old Teaching Others About Sex?

Did you know that the strongest and most consistent predictor of children’s mental health, adjustment, happiness, and well-being is the level of involvement of their parents in their life? Children with involved parents are also more likely to share if they have been exposed to pornography or if someone has touched them inappropriately.

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A Compliment a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

A Compliment a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

You women are fantastic at giving each other compliments. I hear it all the time at the office and in my classrooms. It is not uncommon at all to hear remarks such as: “Cute shoes!” “I love your new haircut!” “You’ve lost weight haven’t you? You look great!” There...

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Don’t Be THAT Parent: Why Criticism is So Dangerous

Don’t Be THAT Parent: Why Criticism is So Dangerous

We’ve all seen that parent at our child’s games: “DON’T DROP THE BALL!” “CONCENTRATE!” “QUIT MAKING MISTAKES!”

Look, I’m no rocket scientist, but I’m going to guess that this child wasn’t trying to perform poorly in front of his family and peers. Is it possible that we too may be guilty of over-criticizing our children?

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How the Soulmate Myth Can Harm Your Marriage

How the Soulmate Myth Can Harm Your Marriage

The “soul mate myth” is a well beloved myth indeed. Those that hold this expectation generally believe that there is one, and only one, right person to marry – their soul mate.

The idea of a soul mate is quite a romantic notion and has been the plot of countless cherished books and movies. But, please pay attention to me – this myth is incredibly dangerous. Let me explain!

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Have I Failed as a Parent?

Have I Failed as a Parent?

Most people have strongly held beliefs about talent, ability, brains, and accomplishment. And most people are wrong about it. Most of what we know about self-esteem, intelligence, work ethic, motivation, and failure is flawed or downright false.

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Is Sugar Hurting Your Marriage?

Is Sugar Hurting Your Marriage?

    Is sugar hurting your marriage? It was trying to harm mine! Do you have a sweet-tooth? Do your breakfast cereals come in two varieties (pre-sweetened and “post-sweetened”)? Can you sometimes relate a bit too easily to the “Buddy the Elf diet”? I had such...

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Can I Punish Character into My Child?

Can I Punish Character into My Child?

Teachers and parents assume that clever consequences will change their child for the better and teach the intended lesson. Research and life experience tells us that this is simply not true. If what we really hope for is the formation of morals (a knowledge of right and wrong) and character (the part of us that dictates our desires, thoughts, and actions) then we need to discipline (root word disciple) in ways that are consistent with our long term goals for our children.

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