BlogFamily: Good Things to Come
The “soul mate myth” is a well beloved myth indeed. Those that hold this expectation generally believe that there is one, and only one, right person to marry – their soul mate.
The idea of a soul mate is quite a romantic notion and has been the plot of countless cherished books and movies. But, please pay attention to me – this myth is incredibly dangerous. Let me explain!read more
We parents can’t guide our children in the digital age when we have our own problem. Here we find 5 ways to reclaim your mind and your parenting.read more
We read about love, watch movies about love, popular songs are about love, and we even devote a holiday to love.
But do we really know how to love?read more
My years as a single mom taught me how to strengthen my family and become a better mother.
When I left my husband 8 years ago, I was an emotional train wreck…
Most people have strongly held beliefs about talent, ability, brains, and accomplishment. And most people are wrong about it. Most of what we know about self-esteem, intelligence, work ethic, motivation, and failure is flawed or downright false.read more
How Do You React When Your Spouse “Messes UP”?
In various ways your spouse has let you down in the past and, at least periodically, will disappoint you in the future. And, frankly, you have and will let them down as well. We all make mistakes!read more
Is sugar hurting your marriage? It was trying to harm mine! Do you have a sweet-tooth? Do your breakfast cereals come in two varieties (pre-sweetened and “post-sweetened”)? Can you sometimes relate a bit too easily to the “Buddy the Elf diet”? I had such...read more
…let me suggest a gift that you can give that will be more important than other gifts you will give this holiday season – the gift of increased love for your spouse? Allow me to explain…read more
Before you use a threat, a lecture, a punitive time-out, a withdrawal of privileges, a grounding, or anything else that might fix the behavior temporarily consider these alternatives–some of which I shamelessly stole from a variety of experts.read more
This article is part 2 in a 3-part series on punishment. Punishing and threatening my children is my go-to method. What do I do instead?! I have no idea. Kidding! One parenting expert responds to this question by saying: “What’s the alternative? Such a question is...read more
Teachers and parents assume that clever consequences will change their child for the better and teach the intended lesson. Research and life experience tells us that this is simply not true. If what we really hope for is the formation of morals (a knowledge of right and wrong) and character (the part of us that dictates our desires, thoughts, and actions) then we need to discipline (root word disciple) in ways that are consistent with our long term goals for our children.read more
“Frustration often stems from unmet expectations. This is especially true in family life where both frustration and expectations can abound. Regardless of the stage of your family, it is likely you had or still have high aspirations for your loved ones. And why shouldn’t you?read more
While unhappy marriages may be unhappy for a variety of reasons, happy marriages have at least one trait in common. Simply put, in successful marriages both the husband and the wife prioritize their marriage. With never ending to-do lists and distracting technology,...read more
In our homes and classrooms, all children come with different strengths and challenges. Before you rush to a diagnosis or a prescription consider the following…read more
We all know we should exercise regularly. For those of you already in the habit of exercising, you know that you have more confidence, feel happier, and have more energy when you take time to be active. However, did you know that exercise provides benefits to your...read more
The Pitch Have I got a deal for YOU! What if I told you that I have something that could fix ALL of your child’s misbehavior with a simple solution—regardless of their age! And if you act now, I’ll throw in some ways to improve both you and your marriage! I know what...read more
The seeds of marital failure are often planted prior to the wedding day. How do our expectations for marriage influence our actual marital satisfaction? In this article Dr. Rob discusses two common – yet deadly- expectations that individuals bring into their marriage.read more
Between orchestra concerts, soccer and baseball games, and end of school year activities, we were constantly on the go during the month of May. Is the month of May like that for any of the rest of you? While we love our children and want to support them, months like...read more